Want to lose weight? Adopt a baby.
My aunt adopted her oldest son when he was less than a week old.
Practically stole him out of the nursery, the story goes.
She’d been trying to get pregnant for a while with no luck.
And, was desperate.
Less than a year after adopting him, she got pregnant with her daughter. And then again, with another son. She probably would have kept having kids, if her husband hadn’t put the kibosh on it.
You’re probably waiting for the part where I tell you about all the weight she lost.
Well, that’s not going to happen.
(And, just to make it clear, we're not actually recommending adoption as a weight loss technique.)
The reason I’m telling you this story is every time I shared this story growing up, people inevitably tell me of someone they know who, once they adopted their first child after having trouble conceiving, ended up pregnant.
It’s a thing.
The theory goes that once a woman relaxes (and lets go of the desperation) around having kids, her body is more likely to relax, which is more conducive for baby-making.
I don’t know if this is true or not when it comes to having kids.
It is true when it comes to losing weight.
If you are stressed about losing weight, beating up on yourself for the way you look, or telling yourself you need to change right now - you are not helping your cause.
You need to relax (and let go of your desperation) BEFORE you will be able to make any significant changes.
Stress hormones can make it insanely difficult for people to lose weight. They increase craving for sugary foods, and often straight up block our bodies from letting go of fat.
When your body is flooded with cortisol, you can eat great, and workout all day long, and still not lose a pound. (Sound familiar?)
You may also be eating the wrong foods for your body. But if you’ve been on the weight loss roller coaster for a while, gaining more weight after each time you lose it… It’s definitely time to change up your mental game.
That’s why we teach you how to feel good in your body first - then move on to food and exercise.
It may sound counter-intuitive.
(Especially if you’re used to beating yourself up all the time, and you think it is the only thing that is going to get you where you want to go. If the latter is the case, this program is definitely not for you.)
But, it helps in two ways:
First, when you how you think you can dramatically reduce the amount of stress hormones in your body.
Second, you enjoy the process more. And if you enjoy the process, you are way more likely to stick to it in the long run.
Don’t believe me? Try it out for yourself.
Kate (& Jason)