6 stages of losing weight forever

Over the years, we’ve noticed the following 6 distinct stages when it comes to how people relate to food.

Here they are:

1. Clueless

Almost everybody starts here. Eating what they ate growing up, not really give it much thought.

Maybe gaining weight, maybe not.

‘Normal’ includes feeling tired, having headaches, needing a coffee or two get started in the morning, a glass or two of wine at night to wind down, and keeping a bottle of Tums handy for indigestion.

Eating whatever feels easy the moment - maybe with the faint thought, “I should eat more vegetables” passing through.

2. Committed

After a while, people realize “something’s not working”.

They don’t fit in their jeans. Their doctor tells them they need to lose weight. Or, they get tired of feeling tired all the time.

They need to ‘make a change’. The degree and style of change depends on the person, but it often leads to…

3. Comparing

At this point, there are ‘good’ and ‘bad’ foods.

Eating ‘healthy’ and avoiding ‘unhealthy’ foods is the way to go.
You’re here if you triggered by what other people eat. (“Don’t drink that soda, it’s bad for you!”). Or you hear yourself saying to yourself, “I shouldn’t be eating this. I should be eating more kale.”

4. Curious

This is when you stop trying to change your habits, and just observe.

You might notice that you crash after eating chocolate cake. Or that quinoa doesn’t really feel that good.

When you have a headache, as you reach for the Tylenol, you ask yourself “Hmmmm, what did I eat today? How much water have I had? Did I sleep well last night? What did I eat yesterday?”

Judgement drops away. It’s no longer bad to eat too much pasta, and you don’t “need to” drink more water. You just notice you feel better when you do.

5. Connected

When you’re connected, you let your body inform what you eat.

If something doesn’t taste good, you stop eating it. If you’re body’s ‘craving’ something, that’s considered useful information.

6. Creative

Once connected, it’s easy to get creative because you’ve stopped ‘shoulding’ yourself.

You may go into the kitchen thinking you want chicken but then as you reach for it, you notice a bell pepper and you thinking, “hmmmm…how can I include that?” Or the pesto you made yesterday feels a little heavy, so you use lemon instead - and bam, you’ve made something you’ve never eaten before.

You don’t worry about cravings.

When you spend enough time cycling between stages 3-6, you enter a whole new world. It’s called:

Easy Food World

Here it’s easy to eat what makes you feel great 90%+ of the time.

And when you don’t, you’re not bothered because it’s easy to get back ‘on track’.

A few people are lucky enough to grow up in circumstances that give them the skills to reach stages 4-6 relatively young.

But most people hang out in stages 1-3 for their entire lives.

(BTW these stages also apply to exercise and healthy movement.)

Our "Do It Right, Do It Once" system helps people make the leap from wherever they are to Easy Food World.

And, the first step is simple, and start here:


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