We all have a hunger: A note on overeating from the depths

My husband left for a nine day trip to Paris yesterday, and I have been filling the space he left by waxing philosophical.

I’ve come to a theory I want to share with y’all.

It’s deep, and many of you are probably going to shake your heads and unsubscribe (that’s cool, you may as well know what we’re all about up front).

But for those of you who stick around, it could be a game changer.

Here’s my theory on overeating, under-eating, cravings, and a whole host of other food-related issues we inflict on ourselves.

As human beings we all have an existential depth, a void, a loneliness, a hunger -

whatever you want to call it -

that can’t really, truly, ever be filled.

Sure we can have moments, days, months or years where we don’t notice it so much but no matter how great our lives get, eventually, even if just for fleeting moments, that loneliness always comes back.

Florence and the Machine sings about it in her most recent single, aptly named Hunger.

“We all have a hunger,
we all have a hunger,
we all have a hunger…”

Some of us (most likely you since you’re reading this), have learned to manage this existential hunger with food.

Others try to fill it with drugs, work, relationship dramas, travel, money, busy-ness…the list goes on and on.

None of these is inherently wrong…

Our coping mechanisms are only a problem, when they become a problem, for us or others.

The real game of life is to find the most healthy, life-affirming ways to live with this hunger.

This may be a bit of a leap but on a philosophical level, but I think this is why diets (euphemistically called lifestyle changes these days) don’t work -

They focus on restriction.

And you can’t use ‘taking away’ as a solution for something that’s trying to fill a void…

Without putting something in it’s place.

The world is getting more and more obese because cheap, effortless, nutrition-less food is more available than ever before, but the reason we’re eating is age old.

What to do about it?

Learn how to unhook your existential ‘hunger’ from food as best you can,

Decide to fill your newly free’d up time (that you’re no longer spending stressing over food) on really cool things that make you happy,

And learn how to get back on track more and more quickly when you inevitably get knocked off.

That’s it.

That’s the name of the successful game.

It’s not a diet. And it’s not a lifestyle change.

It’s changing the game you playing all together.

To the game we teach:


Kate (& Jason)


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