Losing weight, or even just learning to conquer your cravings, is a lonely business.
That’s why there are so many people who advocate accountability buddies, FB forums, and group programs.
There’s something about feeling like you’re “in it” with someone else that makes daunting, difficult tasks seem easier.
But at the end of the day, it comes down to a battle between you and you.
You can have the most supportive friends in the world.
The most well-meaning family.
The most up-to-date nutrition information.
The most loving spouse.
An awesome workout buddy.
And still, its the 95% of stuff that other people don’t see, the moments and days when no one else is around, that will make or break the momentum taking you towards your goals.
It’s the 100% of thoughts that no one else knows, that determines whether or not what you’re doing will really make a difference.
Being able to share your journey with someone else who gets it is great.
But no one else can take you where you want to go.
Whether you eat out of loneliness, boredom, stress, hunger, avoidance, excitement, or exhaustion, shifting those patterns is a 100% internal job.
No one can do it for you.
But the upside is once you do learn how to shift what goes on in your mind, and what you do when no one else is around, you’ll never ‘need’ other people to hold you accountable or help you stay on track again.
Your inner sense of ease and accomplishment will attract people to you and you will connect for different reasons:
they will start to notice that something is different, they will want to be around you because you just feel good to be around.
You might still talk about food or workout together, but you will be coming from a place of fullness not of lack, and that makes everything different.
This is what we teach at Lose Weight For the Last Time.